Always look at the bright side of life. Things happen in life, many of which are out of your control. It’s not what happens to you but how you deal with it is important and most of it is down to your perspective.
Please don’t think for one moment that I’m saying you should just shrug off the blows that life deals you, rather than it’s more about how you deal with the situation that comes your way.
Take for example, your first Truelove. This can be really painful to get over, the reason it’s painful is that you care about the person and you are meant to. We are wired biologically to fell this way.
Back in the land, that time forgot, this closeness also known as a bond, helped us to get through life. It meant that your mate Dave would help you out of a tough situation rather than let you get eaten and (hopefully) you would do the same for him should the situation arise later. Which it probably would a few days later.
In terms of relationships with members of the opposite sex, in the land that time forgot, it meant that you could happily leave little Jimmy who was your offspring with his mother. Or if you were the mother you would look after him while your man went off to hunt.
Things are a bit different these days
What all of this means is, the reason it hurts so much is we are wired to feel. Unless that is, of course, you’re a psychopath in which case you wouldn’t feel anything and it doesn’t matter whether you look at the bright side of life or not!
Why am I telling you all of this? It’s important to know the reasons behind the feelings. I do understand that it won’t make you feel any better though. The chances are though they weren’t any good for you anyway.
So how does this all relate to always looking on the bright side of life?
Your brain is a marvellous piece of kit, it will over time slowly mould itself to what you think about. It does this by creating new circuits and the more you use this circuit the stronger it gets.
Or in other words, if you have the thought ‘Life is amazing’ a new circuit in your brain will form. If you think ‘Life is amazing’ over and over again then this circuit gets stronger. Its the same as learning a new skill, your brain will create a new circuit when you start learning it. When you have done the same thing over and over again you get good at it. As the saying goes, Practice makes perfect!
So its’s the same with perspective and always looking a the brighter side of life. Once you start it will be quiet difficult. This is because you may well have conflicting circuits which are a lot stronger.
Over time and with some work, The old circuits will become weaker as you stop using them and the new ones stronger as you use them more. It can be quiet tricky at first.
This because the old circuits are stronger than the new ones. So they will naturally fire up so to speak and you will get conflicting thoughts but keep going! You can read about it here, but it’s heavy reading!
The same thing goes with your own body image, keep telling yourself you amazing and beautiful (which you are). You will eventually believe this (which you should).
It’s important to note that this is how your brain works, there isn’t a right or wrong here. Or what you should and should not do. It’s just what circuits in your head are stronger. That’s it.
Always look on the bright side of life.
We only get one life and one shot at this. There is no rerun so you should go out there and do what you love.
perspective is a funny thing and not in the sense of LOL! Life is what it is and it’s how you look at it that matters.
Large life-changing things aside. If you always focus and think about the good stuff, you will naturally only see the good stuff!
Positive things happen to positive people because they see life through positive eyes, so see the positive in everything and make choices based on this and vice-versa.
Life is short and the odds of you being on this planet as a human is silly! As the saying “I’m here for a good time not a long time’ goes, Life is short so we might as well enjoy the time we have got.